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The Impact of our Choices

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Our Behaviors are Choices we make..........

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It is always possible to make different choices

We all have preferred patterns of behavior that shape and define how we appear in the world around us.  Our preferred behaviors are easy and come naturally - requiring little thought or energy for us to engage in them.  Other behaviors are less natural.  We may be able to adapt to them and engage in them but they require some effort and may leave us feeling less energized.  And then there are those behaviors that we just hate having to do and avoid at all costs.

Within this framework enters the understanding that our behaviors are choices that we make every day.  And those choices are driven heavily by those things that we enjoy the most or that energize us.  For example:  I may be someone who prefers to have candid and transparent conversations with others and my preferred communication behavior is to approach others in this way.  This may be such a strong preference for me that it can literally exhaust me if I find myself speaking with someone who prefers to beat around the bush, speak in metaphors, or who expects me to read between the lines and "get" their point.  I enjoy candid conversations and likely seek out those who communicate in a similar style.  I may have learned to tolerate those who can't say it like it is and while I don't seek those people out I may keep my communications brief and infrequent.  Or I may find that speaking with those less candid than I am is so exhausting that I avoid them completely - even if they may have something of value for me to hear.  And on the other hand my peers or friends who find my candid dialogue exhausting may be working hard to make sure they are not sitting next to me at the community function.

This is, of course, an example intended to illustrate how our choices in behaviors can shape and impact our lives.

The power in understanding this concept is that choices can be changed.  Unlike personality which is mostly hardwired, our behaviors are choices that we make within the construct of our personality.  The introvert may not ever change that they are introverted but they can choose whether to be reclusive at home or to selectively engage in social interactions.  If I am an introvert and work in a role that requires social interaction, is my drive to succeed at work or the energy I get from work strong enough that I would make behavioral choices that some might think are contrary to my introverted self?  The individual always has the power to choose how they are going to behave.

Imagine if you could look into a mirror and see the behavioral choices you are making or the behaviors you are avoiding and how those choices are impacting your work, your relationships, or your overall success in life.  That mirror would be a powerful tool that could empower you to make different behavioral choices that would support you in being more productive and successful in meeting your life goals.  You might gain personal insight into why you are struggling with something, why you are not happy at work, or why you seem to always fall a little short of your goals.  And with that knowledge at hand it becomes possible to take control through different choices in behaviors, careers, situations, and relationships.

The Harrison Assessment is that mirror.  It is a brief (30 minute) assessment that accurately measures individual behavioral preferences.  It looks at over 100 behaviors and ranks them in order of those that are most natural to those that we may typically avoid.  It also presents this information in a manner that provides a powerful reflection of how those behavioral preferences are impacting our interactions with the world and how they are shaping the way that the rest of the world perceives us.

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Imagine having a mirror that reflects to you how your chosen behaviors are impacting your relationships and effectiveness in the world.

Behaviors as Choices: